“Relationships-of all kinds are like sand held in your hand.
Held loosely, with an open hand, the sand remains where it is.
The minute you close your hand and squeeze tightly to hold on,
the sand trickles through your fingers.
You may hold onto some of it,
but most will be spilled.
A relationship is like that.
Held loosely,
with respect and freedom for the other person,
it is likely to remain intact.
But hold too tightly, too possessively,
and the relationship slips away and is lost.”
In relationships, sometimes one person becomes very attached and clingy. When the other person does not respond the same way, things often can get ugly. Freedom is a part of any relationship. No one wants to be a in cage, not allowed to do anything. I see this all the time in high school. Two people are dating and the one person in the relationship has to know exactly what the other person is doing, thinking, and saying at all times. They have to hang out every minute. I feel like that would be exhausting. Personally, I enjoy having time to myself. A good book, music, a bike ride- I like to do these things alone so that I have time to reflect on my day. I want to have independence, but I want to be interconnected with other people too. I want the best of both worlds.
My job for us all: Give people in your life independence but stay close at the same time.
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